Hi, my name is Aaron and I’m a busy-holic.
It’s true, for much of my life I have been addicted to being busy.
I tend to idolize those who seem to be doing so much which only exacerbates the problem. I see those who are married, have kids, job, volunteer, and usually jungle a few other things while being extremely successful – if I’m honest I envy them and want to be like them.
I cannot begin to count how many times in my life where I have had a full plate and am doing well, only to add more stuff onto an already full plate (eventually you would think I would learn). This leaves me feeling overwhelmed and also at a point where now I have to say no to something I have already said yes to.
If you say yes to to many things, you cannot do them all well.
So this is only the second year I have really entered into advent. By “enter” I mean engage in on a daily basis, with reflections, Scriptures and prayers while meeting on a weekly basis with a church that emphasizes the liturgical year.
The past several months I have embraced being a stay at home dad. While previously my wife and I shared much of the house duties as we were both in school, I have taken the majority of the duties because my wife is in medical school. I struggled with this for a time, but have found that I actually enjoy it…well at least most of the time;)
What this has taught me and continues to teach me is to find the sacred in everyday, ordinary life. In other words, the dishes, the laundry, walking the dog, cleaning the bathrooms, vacuuming the floor, studying for school, spending time with our kids…these are all sacred things.
I am learning that I cannot juggle as many things as some people can and that’s ok.
It’s ok to say no.
It’s ok to embrace my limits.
Only in saying no and embracing my limits can I actually do a few things well.
Now advent is that time of the year were we live in anticipation. We should be slowing down to make room in our lives for Christ, and yet our lives tend to ramp up like it’s on crack!
So, this advent season (and actually the last several months) I have felt invited to slow down, to see things in a different way, and to embrace my limitations.
Maybe you can relate to my addiction to busyness, overproduction, and saying yes to to many things? I now believe most people can really only do about 2 or 3 things well and we only hurt ourselves when we add to many more.
I invite you to ask
what are the 2 or 3 most important things in my life that I feel called to or that are most important right now.
Then I give you permission to say no to all the other things that demand your time, money, talents etc.